How 'hands on' is your DH/DP/DF as a father? Does he relieve you from duty as soon as he gets home from work, or does he fart a** around for hours first?

He is really hands on and has been since DD was born. At one point he was a SAHD, so really got to see how some days are truly difficult and appreciated that I needed a break when he got home. He actually sticks to a very good routine with DD.

When he comes home in a bad mood, or after a hard day and you've also had a hard day at home - Does he a) still carry out all usual daddy duties as normal. b) have a bit of a hissy fit but then carry on with daddy duty as normal. c) Not even notice or ask how your day was, completely ignore the fact that there is a baby in the house, except to complain and swear about the amount of crying said baby is doing while simultaneously ignoring the stressed out look on your face and crazed look in your eye?

I'd probably say a bit of a & b. He usually has a vent then carries on with Daddy and home duties as per normal.

When you feel like you just can't go on another second patting, rocking and soothing in the middle of the night.............. do you feel like you can ask for help and actually get it? Does he even wake up when you speak to him?

I used to try to do it all myself but I suffered from sleep deprivation and anxiety issues, so I had to ask for help. DH used to do the rollover feed and on weekends (DD was ff) to give me a break - that was his suggestion. DH was really good with settling DD, even though we tend to co-sleep now.


Does he take initiative to do the obvious things? Like give the baby some food, milk, a bath, or do you have to ask him to do it. Every day.??

Food wise, he is always checking to see if DD wants food or a drink. He usually runs the bath for DD or they shower together. We stick to the same routine at night. So dinner, bath/shower, quiet time, milk, story, bed. It's been like that for well over three years now, so no excuses for him not to know!

Does he ever make you feel guilty for taking a break, eg complaining about never getting a sleep in because he works 6 days, but then never acknowledging that you have broken sleep every single night. For infinity. !@#$%^&*

Ummm.... not directly but sometimes he did the rollover and I'd just get up then he'd do the 'I'll get up'.... well too late bud I am up! Plus I work part-time so he has to share the responsibility on the days we both work. DH changed jobs, so he only does Mon - Fri now and hrs are flexible to a certain degree. Previously he worked every second weekend and public holidays, so that was tougher. But I still need sleep too - it is dangerous if I am sleep deprvied driving around a baby...


How does he respond to the child crying when he's having a 'power nap'? Does he hear the crying at all? Does he just roll over and ignore it even though you've been struggling for hours? Does he even realise what's happening around him?

^^ Probably a bit the same, but sometimes I'd just nudge him to get up.